I believe Pastors (other than parents) are the most lied too people on the planet. People tell you they will be there at a certain time, but they always end up late. They tell you that they love your preaching, but sleep through most of your messages (not my church 
), they tell you they will be at your church forever and they end up leaving and attending the church right down the street.
I often wondered why some of the older pastors & wives I know seemed to be so bitter & held people at arms length. I would hear them say things like their trust had been broken so much by people that they themselves get tangled in the web of unforgiveness and their hearts get cold towards God’s people!
We have to remind ourselves that we can’t let broken trust keep us from trusting others! We have to learn to keep our confidence in God!
Things I have learned since Pastoring:
1.) People will betray you! Ask Jesus!
2.) All people are not bad people, but all people have been hurt by people! (Open book test: What do hurting people do to other people? You guessed it – Hurt People!)
3.) People will come & people will go! – People will not stay at your church forever – get over it!
4.) The only way to re-establish trust is to make yourself vulnerable! Be open & stay open to people!
I’m still learning, but I refuse to drink the poison of bitterness, unforgiveness, & lack of trust & wish the other person would die! I choose to Love! (Proverbs 10:12closeProverbs 10:12
12 Hatred stirs up strife,
but love covers all offenses. (ESV)
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12 Hatred stirs up strife,
but love covers all offenses. (ESV)
12 Hatred stirs up strife,
but love covers all offenses. (ESV)
NIV)
Love God. Help People. Change the World!
